My husband mentioned this book to me about a week before I found it sitting on the front shelf of our local Barnes & Noble. He had read about it on a forum and suggested that I look for it the next time I went to the book store.
About the Author
Gary Chapman is a marriage counselor who has written 14 books on the subject of relationships. Some of the books on his list include, The Five Love Languages Singles Edition, The Five Love Languages of Teenagers, and Parenting Your Adult Child.
The Five Love Languages is about the five different love languages that people speak: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. Chapman explains what they are and how to discover what your love language is. He also uses examples of his counseling sessions to illustrate each of these love languages and how they differ from one another. At the back of the book, you will find a quiz to take in order to determine what your love language is. However, by the time you get to that point, you will already know what languages you speak.
At first, I didn’t think that it was going to amount to more than fluff and empty promises. Most of these kinds of books are just that. But when I picked it up and started reading, I found myself hooked. I finished the book within two days and had my husband read it. Then we discussed our feelings and findings at length. The Five Love Languages has since changed the way we communicate with each other, thereby improving our relationship.
Both of us scored high in the Words of Affirmation language, although we scored higher in our individual languages. The problem we had with the quizzes was that some of the questions had double answers, which made it very difficult to decide. Just for kicks, we decided to take the quiz again, marking the alternate answers. The score wasn’t too much different.
We also liked how short this book was (201 pages) and how easy it was to read. You won’t find a whole lot of fluff between these covers. The best part about this book is that it can be applied to all the relationships in your life. I’m looking forward to reading Chapman’s other books.
I highly recommend this book, regardless of the condition of your relationships. If they are going strong, this book can enhance them further. If they are strained, perhaps you can gain some insight into why you react to your significant other the way that you do and vice versa. Five Love Languages may help save your relationship.
Visit Chapman’s website at fivelovelanguages.com to learn about the five languages before you buy the book. Take the self assessment quizzes to see what your love language is. Then have your significant other take the quiz. Chapman also has a radio show, podcasts, and his other books listed on his website.